No one can take care of you but you.
It’s painful to come to this realization. It’s the death of hope that someone, somewhere will step up, step out, stand in, and be there for you.
No one can take care of you but you. There is grief in this understanding.
Adulthood requires you to die to needs that were not met as an infant and child – because now, you are no longer helpless. As an infant and child, you were helpless. If you did not receive the consistency of conscious, loving attention to meet your needs, the wound is deep and dark. The wound constantly searches and hopes for someone, somewhere, to step up, step out, stand in, and meet your need.
But that day is never coming. The search for someone else to meet your needs must die for your life to become your own.
Liberation comes from you now, and you alone.
Adulthood is a mature, discerned acceptance that no partner, no employer, no child, no therapist, no friend, no family member – is responsible for meeting your needs.
No one should have known. No one should have seen. No one should have responded.
No more hoping. No more blaming. No more hiding.
It’s your turn now. Stand tall in your adulthood. Speak clearly. Tear down what needs destroying. Own the good and the ugly.
It’s time to take care of you.
Stand Tall,
Angela
