Last week my husband quit his job.
I’m proud of him. He said yes to himself both in a physical and metaphorical way.
He graduates from UNCSA next week as a screenwriter and filmmaker.
He left his 10+ year software career to follow his passion all the while facing his greatest fears. Not easy or for the faint of heart.
And he is flipping out.
We don’t know how things are going to unfold.
He was unable to sleep last night, got up and wrote for several hours anyway and came home.
Then he asked me if it was OK for him to go to a movie.
I said, “Boo, cut yourself some slack. You don’t need my permission. Go enjoy and take care of yourself.”
We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to always be on, always accomplishing, always performing, always figuring something out, always doing something for some purpose or goal.
Sometimes you need a break even when there is a goal or deadline.
Here are 3 tips to cut yourself some slack:
- Acknowledge that cutting yourself some slack is not an indulgence. It’s a way to bring more space to a compressed situation.
- Remind yourself that nothing is really that urgent. Many things we think are urgent we place on ourselves because of our own internal pressure or desire to please or accomplish. Urgency is something you don’t have to think about, like leaving a burning building or swerving to miss an oncoming vehicle (now that’s urgent!).
- Practice kindness to self and others. The more kindness you lend to yourself the more kindness you have with others. The lack of intolerance with other’s mistakes is really a reflection on the lack of our own intolerance with ourselves for not being perfect.
Cut yourself some slack. It may be the most kind thing you can do.
Enjoy this practice – onward friends!
Slack isn’t whack,
Angela
© Copyright 2013 Capri Health – Angela Savitri
